Accepting a lack of reciprocity (or at least the lack of a similar measure of reciprocity) involves a significant romantic compromise that can deal a humiliating blow to our self-esteem, as it entails a significant negative evaluation of our worth.
your experience of the rejection is personal. In fact, it can’t be anything else.
So let yourself be angry, frustrated, even grief-stricken—after all, as a somewhat kinder friend of mine once remarked, when a painful thing happens, a period of mourning is appropriate.
But now the good news: Since you can’t know (or control) the outcome of any story pitch, audition or spec script, you’re free to just do your work. Rather than shaping your creative endeavors to please others, or in some effort to latch on to or anticipate the next trend, your best bet is to do what excites and moves you, to make your creative growth the ultimate goal.
In other words, as I wrote in a previous column, “Keep giving them you, until you is what they want.”
you’re going to be rejected a lot if you have lofty goals you want to achieve, but often times that rejection will have nothing to do with you. Many of us take a single rejection as an opportunity to focus on what we can change and how we can improve, but what good is change if we have no concrete reason for it? When you don’t know why you were rejected, don’t bother to speculate. Let it go, and continue being yourself.
Carlos et Felipe et les flammes de l’enfer
Ex-voto, Alfredo Vilchis Roque
(via ratak-monodosico)
Lost in Tokyo.
¿por qué me escupes en la cara? ¿qué mal te he podido hacer yo por ser morena, gitana?
